We are excited to be serving Portland, Oregon, and the surrounding area. Our doulas both trained with the International End of Life Doula Association. We are a collective doula practice whose members possess many passions and interests, including being of service to those nearing death.
Hallowed Harvest Team
My mom moved back to her childhood home in 2005 to take care of her mother through Alzheimer’s. In that time she said to me, “If this ever happens to me, don’t give up your life. Find me a nice place to live where people will take care of me.”
In 2015, the diagnosis arrived: Mom was developing Alzheimer’s.
My mom has always been my best friend. Rather than feeling like I was giving up my life, I saw this as an opportunity: I'd spent my first 30 years focused on myself. Now I had the opportunity to shift my focus to the care of another.
My partner and I moved with my mom to Portland. I realized that my mom's condition would eventually be fatal. I grieved. I started reflecting on my dad’s death 17 years earlier. I wished someone had told me when he was close to dying, so I could have made it home just a few hours earlier and said goodbye. I thought about my mom providing his care day-in and day-out in our remote house on the river. I wished she’d had someone to support her during that time. I realized I wanted to be that someone for others.
I’d love to be that someone for you.
"We are all just walking each other home."
Losing my father at a very young age has given me a unique relationship to death and loss. I'm struck by the distinct absence of any opportunity to explore the difficult feelings it left in me. So often, feelings are treated as something to push away or get over. We're not well practiced at slowing down to allow them to happen. All they really need is expression—some time to be felt and heard.
After years of practicing holistic bodywork and massage therapy professionally, I’ve grown to appreciate the difficulty we have in modern times with feeling our emotions, and the impact this has on our well-being. Death rites and practices once provided us with a container for our emotional response to the end of a loved one's life, a chance to process the change and loss, as well as come together in community. As an end of life doula, I hope to contribute to a shift in our way of being with ourselves and each other during the processes at the end of life.
Grief is not a feeling. It is a capacity. It is not something that disables you, we are not on the receiving end of grief. We are on the practicing end of grief.
How does a doula "team" work?
By working with a doula team, you and your loved ones get comprehensive coverage for whatever needs may arise. We'll do your initial consult together and determine how best to proceed. For example, perhaps one of us will do Legacy work while the other helps with the Vigil Plan. Working collaboratively, we can bring more flexibility and support to our clients.